Look I don’t want to be writing about Ryan Adams again. I was one of his biggest fans for a long time and I feel like I’ve given him more than enough of my time and my energy. After a string of women called him out for his harmful, awful behaviour I stopped listening to his music. I wrote a few years ago about how I struggled with guilt but was resolved to quit caring too. He even came to play in Scotland and I didn’t waver for a second. I was done. Done.

Don’t worry – I’m still done. I’m writing this post because I’m still learning my lesson. Ryan’s debacles this year have shown me that not only were we so right to cancel this man, we need to take a long hard look at the blob of narcissistic darkness we helped create and acknowledge it our own.